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WILL BRING MORE BLISS TO MY FAMILY: AMITABH
By Subhash K. Jha, Indo-Asian News Service (30 April 2007)
In
the afterglow of the AbhiAsh wedding, Amitabh Bachchan says he
is looking forward to his new daughter-in-law bringing more happiness
into the family. "We're happy that the union has taken place.
I'm sure there'll be even more happiness in the house because
of Aishwarya. There were some truly heart-warming moments during
the wedding and I'd like to believe they were moments that will
remain with us for the rest of our lives," Amitabh told IANS
in an interview.
On
the much-debated guest list, he said: "I really couldn't
go beyond the list that we had. And in any case everyone from
Shah Rukh Khan and Hrithik Roshan to Salman Khan have sent good
wishes.
"If
we invited all the friends of all the hosts, the guest list would've
run into 20,000 people. The family decided that an event like
our children's wedding couldn't be held in a hotel. It was too
impersonal a venue. We decided to have an intimate family gathering."
Q:
How does it feel to have Aishwarya Rai in the house?
A:
It's wonderful! I'm sure there'll be even more happiness in the
house because of her.
Q:
Will Aishwarya assume the Bachchan name on the passport? Would
you like a working daughter-in-law?
A:
I've no problem with whatever name she keeps. As far as her continuing
to work is concerned, Jaya and I have no problem with that. It's
for Aishwarya and Abhishek to decide.
Q:
Were you happy with the wedding?
A:
Yes, by the grace of god everything went off well. We're happy
that the union has taken place. There were some truly heart-warming
moments during the wedding and I'd like to believe they were moments
that will remain with us for the rest of our lives.
Q:
There were many people who felt hurt because they couldn't come
to the wedding.
A:
Let me put my circumstances before you, and leave it to you and
the world in general to judge and sentence us. We were dealing
with a marriage and a guest list that was going out from seven
privileged personalities and celebrities - my late father, Harivanshrai
Bachchan, a literary giant who has his own admirers in the literary
world... then my mother, Teji Bachchan, who has relatives friends
and associates going back to 90 years.
There
was Jaya, a personality in her own right with a large circle of
relatives and friends, there were Abhishek and Aishwarya and there
was Amar Singh and then finally there was yours truly... These
were the hosts to the wedding. Please tell me, how do we even
begin to invite all the people who are associated with these seven
people?
Q:
I can't imagine!
A:
Neither could we. If we invited all the friends of all the hosts,
the guest-list would've run into 20,000 people. Where would we
have accommodated so many people in our home? In a hotel? No hotel
in India could accommodate 20,000 people.
In
any case, the family decided that an event like our children's
wedding couldn't be held in a hotel. It was too impersonal a venue.
So should we have had the wedding at the Bandra Kurla Complex
like the Filmfare awards night? We needed two acres of land for
such a guest list. Where do we provide air conditioning to so
many people in this heat? How would I've accommodated and fed
20,000 people? I'd rather give that kind of money to charity.
Q:
Makes sense.
A:
The most crucial factor while deciding the guest-list was my critically
ill mother. In the last year, we haven't celebrated Diwali, Holi
or my father's birth anniversary in Lucknow. We didn't want to
have any celebration when my mother is lying in the hospital.
At the same time, Abhishek is my only son and it was his only
wedding and the happiest moment in his life. How could we ignore
that moment in his life? How could we deny him that moment of
joy? This is what the circumstances were.
We
decided to have an intimate family gathering. Aishwarya's family
and we decided to have a common wedding card and a common venue.
And we chose friends who were absolutely impossible to ignore.
Whatever we did, we did it with the concurrence of both our families.
We're happy with our decision. I'd like to believe that the industry
too would share our happiness.
Q:
But some of your colleagues are hurt because they weren't invited.
A:
May be they are. May be they aren't. Either way I'm fine with
it. I respect their sentiments and I expect them to respect mine.
If they're offended because they weren't invited, then they weren't
my friends in the first place. I really couldn't go beyond the
list that we had. And in any case everyone from Shah Rukh Khan
and Hrithik Roshan to Salman Khan have sent good wishes.
Q:
What about the accusation that a section of the media was manhandled?
A:
There was a virtual assault on our privacy. I had 40 cars following
us when I was driving Aishwarya and Abhishek home after the bidaai
(leave taking). We were bringing the new Mrs. Bachchan home. It
was a big moment for us. The auspicious time to reach home was
6.57 p.m. before sunset. We were stuck in a traffic jam and desperate
to make it on time.
In
the middle of this Amar Singh needed urgent medical attention.
At 6.55 p.m., just when I'm about to enter Prateeksha, 50 photographers
charged towards us and wouldn't let us move. I had a sick person
who desperately needed a doctor and a bride who needed to get
to her sasural (in-laws'). And we couldn't move! Do you know what
that felt like?
Q:
That's a terrible situation to be in.
A:
The worst was yet to come. After the wedding, late at night, Aishwarya
and Abhishek wanted to visit the hospital to take my mother's
blessings. But the couple was stranded in the car. They couldn't
get out of the car. I was reminded of the time when I fell ill
and my stretcher couldn't be brought out of the ambulance for
nearly half an hour.
My
mother is now oblivious to her surroundings. She wouldn't even
have known what's happening. But Abhishek and Aishwarya wanted
to touch her feet. I visit her every day and she can't even recognise
me. Can you imagine how frustrating it is? Every day I go to my
mother and feel so helpless. Then I've to change my mood to comply
with the demands of other activities in my life.
Does
anyone know what a physical and psychological strain I'm going
through? And then to have people shouting and abusing me in front
of my own home! It's unfair.
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